These days, we can’t seem to escape the notion that men just can’t stay faithful to one woman. The speculation that athletes cheat on their significant others daily are the focus of the media’s fascination. Whether these people live in such a different reality that this kind of thing might be part of the job description, we can’t say. A poll done by the New York Times in 2010 found that 47 percent of the male respondents admitted to having had an extramarital affair (and that percentage doesn’t include those unfaithful guys who weren’t willing to own up to their transgressions). Are men inherently unfaithful? What really makes guys cheat?
There’s a saying that goes, “Show me the most beautiful girl in the world, and I’ll show you a guy who’s tired of sleeping with her.”
And it’s not just that we tire of each other, we keep getting interested in the other items on the menu.
Because let’s face it, marriage is an unnatural state. It’s a commitment people make to each other that says, “I got your back for all time. It’s you and no one else forever. Oh, and please pay the cable bill.”
Almost 50% of people admit they have been unfaithful at some point in their lives, which means sooner or later many of us will have to deal with a wandering eye — ours or our lover’s. But don’t lose hope just yet. There are ways to avoid infidelity as well as repair a relationship already damaged by an affair.
But I think most men stick to this commitment. And the ones who don’t? They’re just too hungry, and the sandwich they’ve got at home isn’t hitting the spot the way it should. If you add to this equation being rich, impossibly good looking and the owner of an ego inflated by the likes of Halle Berry and Jennifer Aniston, then, well, the odds that you’ll cheat are probably a little higher.
Discovering that your significant other is having an affair is a nightmare. Suddenly, your world is crumbling, but it doesn’t have to. Maybe divorce isn’t the only answer. Sometimes, you can rebuild your trust, and you can fall in love all over again…or maybe not.
Relationships will always ebb and flow, and inevitably, there will be moments when temptation beckons your partner. But if you’re worried he/she might give in, you need to determine the root of you suspicion and communicate your fears to your partner. Are these your issues left over from a previous relationship?
Studies show that women are just as likely as men to cheat, which means you may have thought about it. First of all, don’t feel guilty if you’re having naughty thoughts about the UPS guy who delivers packages to your office. He’s cute, and those brown shorts look really good on him! Instead, snag your hubby his own UPS uniform, and role play. But even if you have more than a harmless crush on another man and are on the brink of having an affair, you can still find alternatives to jumping into bed with that other man, whom you didn’t promise to love, honor and cherish.
Or….maybe you should just try another option besides the altar.