People wonder why infamous ‘side-chicks’ like x______ (insert random groupie here) and x_______ (insert any urban model here) don’t have any ambition during business hours. They point to their usual resume: shoes upon shoes from x______ (insert of-the-moment shoe designer), summer months of ‘beach flow’, as well as the highest clout of being able to walk into any nightclub and hangout in VIP (I say that with an incredible deal of sarcasm).
The typical side chick says money isn’t an issue and all she wants is “a chance to mingle,” which is reasonable. So why can’t typical side chicks just go get someone of their own to avoid “drama” that comes with being the second banana on the speed dial?
There’s an art to side chick activity. Those who have mastered it have found steady cash flow without the need for employment for years, “earning” thousands. A good side chick has to perform several roles. But most of all, she has to know and accept that for the foreseeable future she’s not the focal point of any man’s daily routine. “You don’t want girls who come around with a chip on their shoulder that they want to smother their miserable low-esteem lives onto you,” says Avenue 1’s Marc Billington. “It can impact their ability to put money in their pocket.”
That mental rewiring can be foreign and brutal. But successful side chicks do it. Sometimes, side chicks are a bridge to the potential new men (often the gigolo’s friend).
Of course, it’s not easy. Side chicks by nature (mostly minority women) are dominant personalities, and a man only has room for two: the freewheeling late-night chick and the puppet girl. But good side chicks learn to be systematically subservient. That trait is always in demand, which is why the good ones always find steady men, and eventually get a chance to move into main chick status via not messing up the man’s current ongoing relationship.
The average side chick knows she doesn’t have much to offer that appeals as a main chick (despite their assumption that sex keeps men). But some are over 35 years old and still attending NFL & NBA Drafts, as newbies into the money pot have come and gone.
The problem, of course, is that if she wants to knock the main chick out of the picture, she’s got to adopt that mentality permanently. That means not asking for as much money (which is VERY hard for most women in this position), but instead asking for a chance to earn her stripes … again, by not being aggressive.
I know; it’s not fair. And it sounds miserable. But hey, there’s always the option of just getting out of the side chick business altogether and establishing your all-own-everything (your own boyfriend, your own money, your own pull to get into nightclubs, etc). But then again, to the average woman in this mentality, that’s asking for way too much.
Like, you know, the amount that a main-chick does.